0 Cook Islands — especially Rarotonga Where the Dead Stay With Us Chapter 1 — The Paradise We Imagine Chapter 2 — Behind the Postcard Chapter 3 — Living From Paradise Chapter 4 — The Graves Beside the Houses Chapter 5 — When the Dead Remain Family Chapter 6 — Who Really Understands Death? Chapter 7 — What the South Pacific Taught Me / Final Reflection Central reflection guidance: Perhaps life and death do not have to be separated. Those who die can remain part of the family, its memory and its continuing story.